A blog of my feelings…ranging from commenting about other's blogs to commenting about stuff which happens in life and from posting mails which I like, to ranting on stuff.

This is yet another mail fwd.. here goes!

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the
greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don’t recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job… and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn’t. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you’re doing this because you know that you aren’t a bad person. You want to settle down for good because now all of a sudden that becomes top priority. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You begin to think a companion for life is better than a hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind standing tall for that special someone which otherwise you had never thought of until now. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself… and while winning the race would be great, right now you’d just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Share this with your twenty-something friends…. maybe it will help someone feel like they aren’t alone in their state of confusion…

We call it the “Quarter-life Crisis”

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Life is full of decisions.

If you remember your initial days in a job, most of us would have been taken through some soft-skills training named Decision Making and Problem Solving. (Or is it the other way round???)

I always thought I was a sucker at decision making and I underwent this soft-skills training twice, once with my entire team who had joined and the second time, by requesting for it. Undoubtedly, the training helped me. The training did not help me to take decisions.. It taught me that I always used to take decisions; but my problem was that I did not know I was taking decisions.

For ex: Undergoing the training the second time too was a decision that I took.

The training also taught me that Decision Making was easy, but sticking on to the decision was tough. When you have to take a decision, stick on to it and if you face any hardships, you should not repent that you took the decision – I guess this is the toughest part.

I am now sure that I was not the only person who sucked at decision making. Almost everyone whom I know take decisions unknowingly, and quite a few of them repent at taking such a decision. Taking a wrong decision, at times, is fun.

It was just once that I had to travel from Basaveshwaranagar, Bangalore to Srinagar, Bangalore. The easiest route was to go through Vijayanagar, Mysore Road,  Hosakerehalli (Pipeline) Main Road, Girinagar and Srinagar. But I actually goofed up on one road. Instead of crossing over into a galli, and reaching the Vijayanagar main road, I missed that galli and took a decision of continuing on Magadi Road. Though that road ensured that I reached Mysore Road through the ORR and Kengeri, I travelled an extra 30 kms. The total distance from my house to Srinagar is 11 kms. That day, me and my friend took 42 kms! All coz of a decision. Now, normal people might repent on the decision of travelling an extra 30 kms in a Kinetic Honda coz that would mean an extra liter of petrol. Both me and my friend just laughed at the decision and thought about it as a good road to rip in a bike rather than a Kinetic Honda!

So, as I was mentioning, there are decisions that we take and laugh about our decision.. but not repent about it. How many of you would have done the same? I am sure you would have cursed me if I had taken you guys in this route rather than in the short cut!

Another decision was about my career. From being in operations in a wonderful company to switching jobs to a not so known company and continuing in operations, to taking a parallel shift in career into the sales function / business development function and liking it to making this my career path now is fun. All my friends / colleagues / relatives ask me what made me to take this decision. It was a decision to change jobs. I am not telling here that I took these decisions all by myself. I have consulted a few people who have guided me in my career path so far, but then, the decision maker was me!

As they say, 1 man can drag a horse to the water, not even 1000 people can make it drink. I am the man and the horse here.. and no matter what people say, it is my decision that I stick on to!

To blog or not to blog is also a decision.. and the topics to blog about, how to go about with those topics, how much of “personal” information to divulge, how to get people to read my blog and comment on it… etc etc.. all involve Decision Making.

After quite a long while, I finally decided that I would not let some-one’s actions and chats and attitude cause disturbance to me. I have successfully lost touch with her. No more orkutting, no more facebooking, no more linked-in, no more gtalk with her. I used to hate her attitude and this makes me feel relieved. I dunno if she reads my blog. Even if she did, I do not know if she would relate herself here. Even if she related that it was her that I am referring to, I do not care. It is just that I am happy. There are quite a lot of ways that she can get in touch with me (if she wants to) which will make me find out more ways to stay away and stay out of touch! All that this took was just one decision.

I love the way decisions make my life far more smooth and happy!

I don’t suck at decisions anymore now.. But the repercussions of the decisions and the arguments that I enter into at home and coz of the decisions make it all worthwhile.

Have you ever had the wonderful incident to take a decision among two very rosy choices? And if so, what were the choices and the decisions that you took? Have you ever repented on taking any decisions? Do let me know either by commenting or by mailing me at suksy@suksy.com.

Till the next time that I take a decision about  a topic to blog about.. ciao…….

I just had to post this one onto my blog.. Ths is yet another forwarded email.

An UPDATE: I have been informed by @harshahv that the original post was done by Mr. B Sreeram of Infy and was put on the Infy Blog. I received this as an email!

I dedicate this post to all my twitter friends and the number of TwEATups that we keep having on and off.

I hope this is going to give a different perspective to all of us in the next TwEAT UP.

There are many ways to eat a masala dosa ..What ever the way one eats; there is a very good reason for doing that. It shows some traits of the person that is you…

Case 1: People who open the masala dosa and eat it: These are the people who are very open about their life. Everyone one the persons friends would know all about him/her. I have generally seen guys do this rather than girls. Some people think that it is a gross way of eating but in truth, these people are just portraying who they are and how their life is.

Case 2: People who start from both end and approach the masala later: These are the people who like to wait for the exiting things to come to their life. Sadly when the times comes, they are not too interested or just do not know how to enjoy it to the fullest. These are the folks who just want life as either dry or exiting. They just do not know how to phase their life and enjoy it no matter what. There are two types of people within this group

Case 2.1: People who do not finish all the masala: These folks just do not care as much for the fun times as they are already brought down by the harsh reality of life. The dry periods in their life has left them with so much scars that they do not want to be really happy when the time is right. They just take only as much as they needed and end their life. A very sorry state indeed.

Case 2.2: People who finish all the masala with the little dosa they have: These are the folks who just are the extremes. They just go all out in life. No matter it is dark or bright. They may not enjoy life to the fullest but they sure make sure that they get every single good and bad thing out of life. Sometimes these folks are really hard to get along with. They are either your best friends or your worst enemies. They do not have a middle path at all.

Case 3: People who start from the middle and proceed to both ends: These are the people who like to get right to what they think is their best part of life. Usually these guys finish of the good portions in a hurry and get stuck with nothing but worst parts of their life. The thing to note among these people is that the tendency to burn out very early in their life. Like the above case, there are two kinds of people in this group too.

Case 3.1: People who do not finish the dosa: These folks are really the saddest of people. They are the ones who tend to end their life as soon as it hits the bad patch. For them, they only need and want the best things in life and nothing more. Typically, they are not prepared or tuned to life as a whole. They just want to enjoy from first till last. Sadly, no one in the world can live without even an ounce of sadness in life. Not even the richest of the richest. But to self destruct at the mere sign of distress is very bad. That is what these guys tend to do. Some learn to live life but most of them do not.

Case 3.2: People who do finish the dosa: These folks are the typical human beings. We all enjoy the greatest of times in life and push the sad parts thinking about the great times in life. Typically the plate is clean and nothing is left for fate or in life. Happiness and sadness are part of life and these guys know that and are kind of prepared for it. Life is not always happy but there are moments of happiness here and there.

Case 4: People who eat the dosa making sure that the masala lasts for the whole dosa: These people are very rare. These are the people who like to attain balance in their life. It is hard to displease these people and it is hard to make them really happy. They like their balance and are very protective of it. Sadly these are the people who tend to be lonely as anyone else may upset the balance of their system… Perfectionist to the core and are very careful. These guys do not make the best company but are needed in any group to make the group from going hay wire.

Case 5: People who do not share and eat the dosa as if it is precious: These folks are very protective about their life. They do not want anyone to come and interfere in their life. They like to hide their true nature and intensions for their benefit. Beware of such people as they are in every group for their own need and nothing else.

Case 6: People who offer their first bite to others: These guys are overly friendly. They do anything to be part of a group and make everyone feel like the group is important than the individuals. They are the glue that holds any group together. They are very friendly and bring the best of all the others in the group. They go out of their way to help other friends. Most groups should have a person like this and they are the ones who plan the group outings and other group activities. Once this person is out of the group, typically the group slowly falls apart.

Case 7: People who take one or two bites and then offer the dosa to others: These guys care about friends and friendship but they take their time to get into the group. They take their time in making friends and they typically are very committed once into the friendship. These guys like to always be in the side lines and typically do not jump into anything in life. They always take their time to analyze the situation and then make a decision. These guys take the better safe than sorry approach.

Case 8: People who wait for others to make the offer first: Typical people I must say. They are unsure about everything. Even if they wanted to offer, they will wait till the other person offers the food first. If the other person is silent, so are these people. They are the followers. They do terrific idea, they will pitch it to someone else and get their advice before proceeding. Sadly, most of the elderly world like these types of people.

Case 9: People who offer dosa only when they cannot finish it on their own: You all may be familiar with these kinds of people. People who are very generous only when all their needs are fulfilled. These folks are selfish but at the same time not misers or greedy. They just want to satisfy themselves before they give it to the world. They typically do not stuff themselves nor do they tend to starve. They are very good people who would give you the best of advices in life. They would make sure that you are not sad following their advice.

Case 10: People who offer the whole dosa and eat from others plates: These folks are other extreme. They know what they want, they get what they want but they cannot enjoy what they want. Instead they tend to settle for other things in life which satisfies the needs but does not satisfy the person completely. These guys are termed as born losers cause even when they have the thing they wanted, they can’t stop others from stealing it from them.

So next time you sit with a person eating a masala dosa, look closely and see if he falls into one of the above categories. You may be surprised as how much it reveals about the person*

Enjoy eating Masala Dosa…….and do leave a comment letting me know if I am the only person belonging to different cases or whether all of you belong to different cases at different times too.