A blog of my feelings…ranging from commenting about other's blogs to commenting about stuff which happens in life and from posting mails which I like, to ranting on stuff.

There are a lot of questions which are unanswered and which tend to remain unanswered. Though it is true that people ask questions only if they have answers within themselves and they want the answers to be verified by a different person, it is also true to state that if someone is in doubt, it is better that they get it clarified rather than continuing in the same doubt.

As the saying goes, “People might consider a fool if you ask a question, but you would remain a fool throughout if you don’t ask it”.

As one of my ex bosses was mentioning, every question has an answer, but to give out a convincing answer to people is the challenge. Here are a few questions that I have the answers, but not convincing answers. I need not answer the questions to anyone else but myself.

Why do people go through uncomfortable situations in life? It might be uncomfortable to them personally or psychologically, or it might be uncomfortable to those people who are close to them. Isn’t there a control over life that one can exercise and get rid of these uncomfortable situations?

Not that they want to go through these uncomfortable situations, but they feel that they do not have any other option other than undergoing these turbulence. The truth is far from this. I feel that every person will have the chance to steer his/her life the way he/she wants, but unfortunately will not be alert to notice the warnings and will realize his/her follies after he/she learns the lesson the hard way.

Why do people take someone else for granted and think that he/she would be flexible enough to be molded into the way that the other person desires? It might be a good friendly gesture or it might be fun intended, but the gestures and the intentions should be taken in the right spirits. Unfortunately, most of us repeat this mistake often and take people and their help / friendliness / guidance / advice / moods / minds / emotions for granted and play around with them.

It is not that we willfully do it, but we tend to ignore the first signs of uncomfortableness that we notice the other person facing due to us. And when we notice the situation that the other person is facing and we realize that we have been the cause for a considerable amount of misfortune that the other person is undergoing, no matter how many apologies are expressed, they will always fall short of. As the saying goes, a stitch in time could save nine. Unfortunately, in the saying, Time is a qualitative aspect and can be measured in various means by various people. So, by the time I realize that I am supposed to put a stitch, it might be too late. Or I would be stitching (patching up) my relationships without any reason which would cause people to assume that I have a guilt in me and I have some wrong intentions in my mind which is making me patch up.

There are a few more questions which I might put it as a different blogpost, but this last question is the one that will definitely evoke an argument… so, here goes!

Why do people “network” socially virtually? If you meet them in person, would they network with you in such a free way? What is the benefit of social networking, other than just time pass? Yeah, getting to know people, increasing your “network” of “friends” is all nice. But how many are actually “friends”? Since this is the virtual era, like having “pen-pals” in the age-old days of the normal India post, we have twitter friends, facebook friends, orkut friends etc. I am friends with many unknown people. No doubt that it would be nice when we catch up with each other, but would it be really possible to catch up with these “virtual” friends with all the busy schedules that everyone has? I have my own doubts. There are so many people in Bangalore who are “friends” with me on some or the other social network, but I am sure that I have not met so many of them, though staying in the same city as them. Would it be really worth wasting time on social networking?

Recently, I had this argument with a friend of mine as to whether social networking is beneficial or not. To give you a background, Let me admit that it has been quite a lot of days since I was “active” on twitter. I never even logged on, nor opened tweet-deck and even checked what is happening in the twitter timeline. In a sense, you can term it as a check as to whether people would notice me being absent from twitter. I guess a few close friends did, but definitely not all my followers / followees. I also restrained from posting new posts on my blog or on facebook and wanted to stay away from the “virtual society” of “friends” on my social networking sites.